Sunday, April 17, 2011

Tales of Donk and deception

When Emily was a baby my cousin gave her a little Eeyore soft toy with a teether attached. The ribbon that held the teether on was frayed at one end so I cut the teether off. This toy, which forever will be known as "Donk", became her comfort object.

Donk was the only thing that Emily would take to bed. I had tried other toys and blankies, but it was only Donk that she loved. Hubby being the forward thinker (read worrier) that he is, pondered how long this toy would last (or worse, what would happen should he be lost). So I set out on a journey to find another one the same to have stashed away for that worst case scenario (loss, perishing, or spontaneous combustion).

Fast forward two and a half years or so. Donk has aged reasonably well, and over the years Emily developed a (very cute) habit of rubbing her nose with one of his ears while stroking the inside of the other.  He's survived more than a few washes and had a couple of stitch ups, although he is getting a little lumpy in the middle. So far the search for his twin has been fruitless. We do have a growing collection of 'similar but not the same' Donks that just didn't cut the mustard with Emily. They are now all living in a corner of her bedroom, destined to never be drooled upon.

In November 2010 we decided that it was time for Emily to give up her dummy (pacifier). So I took it from her one morning and all was good and well. Until bed time. It was the most painful hour of my life (after labour), I gave in and gave it back! Then one morning, a couple of weeks later she came and told me that she'd thrown her dummy in the bin, it was broken. It was the last one in the house and I wasn't looking forward to bed that night. She asked for it and had a bit of a cry when I reminded her SHE threw out, but after that was fine. We haven't heard a peep about it since.

Donk wasn't so lucky! After the dummy was gone, she started to chew on poor old Donk's ear. Just one. She still stroked the other one. Well, this fast forwarded the perishing of this beloved. We wondered how many more washes he could pull through.

Then the most awesome thing happened (yes, I'm easily excited!) I was up late one night on Facebook, looking through some buy, swap, sell pages when I found it. The EXACT same Eeyore!! I was so excited that I woke hubby up when I went to bed to tell him!

Ok, so I know what you're thinking, three years later, she'll never accept this new toy as a replacement. Believe me I was thinking the same thing, trying to figure out how to make the swap. For a few days before we got the new donk we were talking to Emily about washing Donk and how Mummy was going to fix his ear and make him all better. The day he arrived we had it all planned. We'd convinced Emily that Donk needed a bath. So we got her to put him in the washing machine. Then hubby took her off to distract her play with her. I took the 'new' donk and cut off the teether, trimmed up his mane a little and popped him in the wash too.

When the cycle finished I went in and took out the old, battered but loved toy. Hubby brought Emily in to the laundry to get the 'new and improved' Donk out of the machine. She took him out and gave him the once over, looking really hard at his ears. It was really cute watching her inspect him. Then she said, with a look of puzzlement, "his ear needs to be longer." Well, hubby and I could barely hide our giggles. She'd chewed his ear so much that it had stretched out, not that you'd have noticed as it was always scrunched up in her mouth. Yuk! The new Donk passed inspection and off she trotted with him!

So we've stashed the old faithful Donk away, and Emily is happy as Larry with the clean little buddy she has now. And one thing I've noticed so far, she hasn't once put his ear in her mouth!

Do I feel bad that we've lied/tricked/deceived our three year old daughter? I don't see it that way. I like to think of it as a bit of magic. Something old is new again in the eyes of a child. If we can get another three years out of this one I'll be a happy Mumma. It's so cute to see her cuddled up to him.

Now, what to buy Jessica for her comfort object?


Anonymous said...

LOL..very cute Donk is too!!
Ethan was given a blue bunny for hos first Easter..we did the same thing, how long would bunny last?? So next Easter, what did we do? We bought 2 more so we had backup bunnies BUT Ethan found them, he now walks around with all of them but he still goes back to the original manky thing. They've all been through the wash a thousand times and still look pretty good I have to admit. We lost a few now and then but they have always shown back up. We still have the 3 bunnies!

Anonymous said...

So cute! Amazing that they can tell which one is their comfort toy. Zach has a little teddy bear, we also did the forward thinking and tried finding another one... unfortunately the shop only sold his bigger brother, not much bigger but definitely noticeable. He would not accept this new one as his 'Scruffy', and for the first 18 months would not have anything to do with it and would only cuddle his Scruffy. Then one day he started playing with them together, now he has his Bear and Scruffy... hmm double the problem! :) We got a similar one for Zane, and Zach calls it Bubba's Scruffy. Too cute. Must visit the shop again and see if they have some new ones! - Alicia.

CRAP Mamma said...

That's adorable! My eldest had 'baby' a little white teddy, my middle has 'roo-bear' and 'nunny' and my youngest has another 'nunny' (lovingly named by the middle son). The boys can't live without their comforters and I love that they have them - thankfully over the years they've had 'back-up' comforters that they were happy to let stand-in for a night or two while the 'real deal' was having a 'bath' lol!!

Caz (The Truth About Mummy) said...

So cute - love the photos. Thanks for following my blog - popping over to do the same :O)

Me 'N My Monkeys said...

Thanks for stopping by!

Loving your pics, your daughter is very beautiful. :)

Anonymous said...

I would have done the exact same thing! And I don't see it as lying to your daughter - you are just doing what you needed to do.

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Andie said...

What a gorgeous story - makes me all warm inside. She looks super cute all cuddled up to her 'new' toy :)

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